What it Takes to Have an Awesome Life
- Tamara Dodgson
- Feb 19, 2019
- 7 min read
Updated: Mar 23, 2019
"Don't be afraid to give up the good to go for the great."
- John D. Rockefeller
Everybody wants to have an awesome life, but from my experience, it would seem that most of us are living something a little lacking in awesome. At least most of the time, anyway.
Sure, we may catch little glimpses of awesome every now and then. A chance meeting or encounter that brings us an opportunity, an unexpected act of kindness from a stranger, a sudden hug or expression of love from our children or a big bunch of beautiful flowers from our partner. Those things are all awesome and there are probably a million others you could think of as well.
But I'm talking about the kind of awesome that makes you stand back and go, "Wow. Holy Shit. Is this really MY life?" I'm talking about the kind of life that makes you wake up and jump out of bed every day because you can't wait to see what's going to happen next. Is that even realistic or possible? Why does that kind of awesome seem so unattainable for so many of us 'common folk'? What does it take to achieve that kind of awesome in our lives?
I've worked hard to achieve more awesomeness in my life. I've made a lot of tough decisions. I've sacrificed a lot of logic, comfort, security, stability and approval in order to pursue my dreams. I've spent thousands of hours and thousands of dollars pouring over educational shows, webinars, seminars, books and courses - anything I could get my hands on that would teach me what I needed to learn in order to create a more awesome life.
I think I've achieved a lot when it comes to creating lasting positive change. I've figured out who I want to become and I've found my purpose. My relationships are better, I'm wiser, happier and a whole lot more content than I ever was before. I've come to love and appreciate who I am and I now know and understand a whole lot more about other people as well. But I'm not even remotely close to being done. (Hey, what can I say? I have high standards.)
Now I get that we don't all have the same definition of awesome. For some of us it might mean that we get to run marathons, have a better body or relationship, more time to spend with our children or to go on amazing vacations with our family. To others it might mean that we have to own a yacht, earn a million dollars or have the financial freedom to do anything we want. I think for me it might mean all of these things. (Come to think of it, I may need to lower my own standards.)
I think it's great that we all get to dictate our own definition of what awesome means. I also think it's wonderful that we get the opportunity to focus on making it even better for ourselves and other people. That's my bag. That's what I'm interested in. That's what gets me out of bed excited and energized every single day. I know we have it good. I know that there is an incredibly huge amount to be grateful for. But how can we make it even better?
Here's a few of the big ideas I've come across as of late:
1) Stop trying to be something you're not. I think I've always gotten this at the logical level, but lately it's been taking on a new meaning for me. I'm learning that my idea of what sales and marketing is, or what I thought sales and marketing had to be, actually has nothing to do with how it really is at all. I used to think that sales and marketing meant that I had to be pushy and manipulative and clever. It's no wonder I never had any interest in it because that isn't congruent at all with who I am or who I want to be. Recently I've learned that all I have to do is be who I am with people and focus on my real goal which is just helping them in whatever way I can. Now that kind of authenticity is something I can work with.
2) Stop making it about you. I think the reason why so many of us shy away from the important things is because we get all caught up in our heads about everything. All the self doubt, all the concern over whether or not we're worthy or we've got enough to give or whether or not people are going to be interested in what we've got to offer. Lately I'm coming to realize that none of those things really matter. At the end of the day, all that matters is whether or not we're using what we've been given to help other people and make the world a better place. Period.
3) Stop the distraction. I used to be amazed at how fast the days would go. I literally always felt like I was running constantly and getting absolutely nowhere. Through the help of a friend, I've recently come to discover just how much time I was losing a day to distractions. Technology, interruptions, poor planning, no boundaries and a lack of focus were causing me to lose valuable and productive time and energy. Since I started getting these things under control, I feel more in control of my time and I have a lot more clarity around my priorities.
4) Stop believing your own BS. We're all guilty of believing things that aren't true. Out of all my training and all my research and all my experience, this one remains one of the hardest ones of all to conquer. Again, most of us are aware intellectually that we're fooling ourselves when it comes to shrinking from our greatness. But feeling the truth about it down to our core is another matter. It's taken years for us to become so well versed in self doubt, self criticism and self denial. We have to accept that it may take a little practise to change it. But practise we must. Consistently, repeatedly, regularly. Every single day. Until we get it.
5) Stop believing it's supposed to be easy. I've heard it said so many times - "once you discover what it is that you're supposed to be doing, it will all just flow so easily to you". I can say that things have definitely gotten easier with clarity; since I made the leap into entrepreneurship and stopped doing what I thought I was supposed to be doing, I fight less with myself than I ever did before. That's because I now feel like at least I'm on the right path anyways. But finding and overcoming all the other personal conflicts I believe will take a little more time. After all, they say that the real struggle that must be overcome with success is the struggle you must overcome with the self. This one I'm still working on.
To date, I've learned some pretty amazing ways of improving our lives. I've learned that self care and awareness is critical to our health and wellbeing. I've learned that it's possible to let go of limiting beliefs and to change our story and our blueprint so that we can get what we want. I've learned that we create our own reality by managing our own emotional states and I've discovered how those emotional states control the choices and decisions we make.
Those lessons have had a profound impact on me and have helped me create a whole lot more awesomeness in my life and in the lives of the people I've served so far. But now I'm after the big kahuna. I want to make the one big change that's going to catapult my life and the lives of the people I serve into full blown awesomeness. I want the big fish. And I really do believe it's possible for any of us to achieve it.
So how about you? What's your definition of an awesome life?
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About the author
Tamara Dodgson is a Certified Strategic Intervention Coach and Life Strategist with Forward Coaching and Consulting Services. Utilizing the most powerful principles and strategies from master Strategic Interventionists, Tamara offers a sound, knowledgeable and dependable methodology for change, whether it relates to matters of the individual, couple, family, partnership, company, organization or community. She has successfully helped her clients navigate through hundreds of unique and challenging life situations, often involving complex issues such as smoking and shopping addictions, separation and divorce, anxiety and stress and work related challenges. Tamara empowers her clients by helping them identify what they want, teaching them a successful and proven methodology for change and providing them with measurable and lasting results. You can connect with her on Facebook at Forward Coaching & Consulting Services, on LinkedIn at Tamara Dodgson, on her website at www.tamaradodgson.com, or via email at coaching@tamaradodgson.com.
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